HOW TO be a HOT FAT GUY!
Part 1: Charisma and Confidence as a Fat Guy
Want to be a Hot Fat Guy that can talk to anyone?
Then don’t just fantasize about being your most confident self, do the work to be it. But I’ve got a big secret about how to be more confident, right now.
Even if you have no confidence right now, I promise with the right tools you can fake it till you make it. The more you put yourself out there and fail, in time the more you will put yourself out there and succeed.
This is NOT some pick up artist, Andrew Taint, get bitches, get rich, get laid quick bullshit. These are some tools to put in your toolbox of starting conversations, making new friends, connecting with new people, and being confident in yourself.
VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: Be sure to pick up on others social cues, not everyone wants to be approached in public. If you don’t know what social cues, here’s a great guide for you.
REJECTION IS THE SECRET SAUCE OF CONFIDENCE
Embrace, Expect, and Revel in Rejection my friends!
I consider myself to be a shy person at heart. I’m a performer so it’s easy for me to put on the personable, outgoing, charismatic mask. At my core I’m desperately afraid of being rejected and humiliated in front of large groups of people. Especially not after Valentines Day my sophomore year in high school. But here’s the secret sauce: your ability to handle rejection is the key to confidence, and the life you really want.
The thing that scares you the most is also the thing that will probably make you the happiest.
At least that’s true in my life.
I fucking HATED talking to strangers, let alone HOT strangers, and now it’s one of my favorite things in the world. How did I do this? I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and my limited beliefs about what I had to offer the world, and I talked to SO. MANY. STRANGERS. I treated talking to people like going to the gym or learning to play piano. It’s a literal skill that you can work on and get better at.
Unfortunately there’s no avoiding this process either.
You’ve got to fall flat on your face a million times or so before you can finally land a backflip right?
So here’s my challenge to you! Go forth and get rejected!
Talk to the old man in the park about his newspaper! (see how long it takes for him to say “back in my day” and/or something terrible)
Tell the Barista their new glasses look great on their face, or that dude that he has an EPIC Beard. Give people the opportunity to connect with you and you may very well get that opportunity to connect with them back!
And the best part? They don’t fucking know you and you’ll most likely never see them again so even if you walk up to them and your mind goes blank so you say “I’m a little teapot” and walk back in the other direction, that’s fine! Start with low stakes- even just saying, hello, or you have a cute dog is a great opportunity to talk to people. Seriously, when in doubt, just ask people to pet their dogs.
You’ll be surprised by just how many people will be glad to have someone to talk to!
Go get rejected and then write to us at Hello@hotfatguyclub.com to tell us how it went!
Hot Fat Guy Out,
Love,
Alex
